Latest News: Technology |  Celebrity |  Movies |  Apple |  Cars |  Business |  Sports |  TV Shows |  Geek


Filed under: News


Why Grandma Shouldn't Have Posted Instagram Pics On Facebook

Jan 7 2014, 11:16pm CST | by

10 Updates
Why Grandma Shouldn't Have Posted Instagram Pics On Facebook
Photo Credit: Forbes


Full Story

Why Grandma Shouldn't Have Posted Instagram Pics On Facebook

A well-intentioned grandmother accidentally hurt her grandkids’ feelings. She took screenshots of their delightful Instagram photos and proudly uploaded them to Facebook for all of her social network friends to see. If the younger generation didn’t set their accounts to private, could Grandma possibly have committed a faux pas? All she did was lovingly pass along publicly available information!

In her latest “Social Media Etiquette for the Rest of Us ” column, Amy Vernon decrees that while “Instagranny’s” heart was in the right place, she still displayed bad judgment. We think Amy is right. But the reason why etiquette prevents “publicly available” from necessarily meaning carte blanche deserves a little more attention.

To be sure, Grandma had good reason to believe she was acting in good faith. When her grandkids uploaded their pics to Instagram, it might have appeared that they were snubbing their noses at privacy. Or, at the very least, perhaps they appeared unconcerned with what might happen with their photos. At face value, taking issue with Facebook posts of information voluntarily made publicly accessible might even seem confused, if not hypocritical.

So, why did Grandma fail to display the wisdom so often associated with age?

Vernon argues that the answer is simple. Grandma misinterpreted her grandkids’ intentions. “Maybe there’s a reason they didn’t post them on Facebook,” Vernon writes. Indeed, “maybe they want their friends and perfect strangers to see the photos, but didn’t want family to.”

Personalizing the matter, Vernon notes:

“When I was in my teens, 20s, 30s, I didn’t want to share what I was doing with my whole family. We didn’t have Instagram and Facebook to share everything with everyone (well, Facebook came along in the latter half of my 30s, but no one in my family was on it). If my grandmother had taken photos from my apartment and photocopied them and sent them in a newsletter to her friends and extended family, I’d have been mortified.

That’s kind of what this is like: You’re taking your grandchildren’s photos, without their permission, and sharing them with everyone you know.”

Let’s elevate this mundane case to a deeper point about privacy.

Making a public social media post isn’t tantamount to forgoing privacy concerns. Pictures uploaded to Instagram may very well be available for everyone to see at the click of a button. But if folks don’t have interest or incentive to troll the site, that information effectively can be hidden from them in plain sight. Sure, Aunt Edna and Uncle Joe might check Grandma’s Facebook feed daily. But they might not consume any other social media. Or, they might not have family in mind when running Instagram searches. Perhaps they just use it to find Lolcats .

If Grandma assumed that all publicly shared information wants to be free, she made a common mistake. She presupposed information exists in one of two forms: public or private. In reality, however, disclosures are more nuanced than that. They exist along a continuum of obscurity. At one end of the continuum lies information we’re shouting from the rooftops and want to be made absolutely transparent. At the other end of the continuum lies information we keep to ourselves and want to be kept absolutely secret. In between these extremes is lots of middle ground. On many occasions, we try to communicate with one group or another and hope the information doesn’t travel past these “private publics .”

In a previous Forbes post , we put the point this way.

“In everyday conversations, the word ‘obscurity’ is used to talk about unnoticed people and inconspicuous things. Additionally…obscurity should refer to privacy protections that make it hard for unwanted parties to obtain personal information or understand exactly what our personal disclosures mean.

Social media users regularly employ obscurity-creating tactics. Users choose whether to create accounts with protected tweets, sign up for accounts under pseudonyms, have coded conversations that contain hidden meanings, or use add-ons like Twitterspirit that delete tweets after a self-selected expiration date has been reached.”

It turns out that using a medium that’s only favored by some groups is a strategy for promoting obscurity, too.

Ultimately, every time we put information online, we roll the dice with obscurity. We hope our intentions are clear and our strategy for the limiting or maximizing our reach is sound. The matter is complicated by the technological affordances of any given medium, which might not allow users to clearly express themselves by using tools like privacy settings. For example, one of us has a protected Twitter account. The account is protected mainly as a way to thwart bots, scrapers, and search engines. But that isn’t clear to followers who might wish to republish posts.

In a sense, our basic relation to the Internet is paradoxical: “Ceding control, while still wanting it .” In the digital age, etiquette should remove some fear from this paradoxical experience. That’s why Grandma and the rest of us should ask permission before re-posting information from one social medium to another.

Source: Forbes


iPad Air Giveaway. Win a free iPad Air.

You Might Also Like


Sponsored Update

Update: 10

Selangor’s Watergate about to explode

Source: Malaysia Today

Anwar brought Wan Azmi to meet Khalid to try to resolve this matter. Anwar supports the RM2.5 billion claim but Khalid is stubbornly sticking to the figure of RM250 mil ...
Source: Malaysia Today   Full article at: Malaysia Today 3 hours ago


Update: 9

GLCs told to provide RM7 billion to develop Bumiputera firms

Source: Malaysia Today

EurAsia Cup presented by DRB-HICOM - Day One
(The Malaysian Insider) – Putrajaya has directed government-linked companies (GLC) to generate RM7 billion in business opportunities for Bumiputera firms this year, Prime Minister Prime Minister Datuk Seri Najib ...
Source: Malaysia Today   Full article at: Malaysia Today 6 days ago, 2:05am CDT

More From the Web

Update: 8

Rafizi shows proof of Putrajaya’s hand in contentious carpet-trader loan

Source: Malaysia Today

Eileen Ng, The Malaysian Insider PKR lawmaker Rafizi Ramli today revealed documents to prove Putrajaya interfered in the RM32 million Bank Rakyat loan to ‎controversial businessman Deepak Jaikishan. ...
Source: Malaysia Today   Full article at: Malaysia Today 1 week ago, 2:16am CDT

Update: 7

PAS MP claims Bank Rakyat loaned carpet-trader RM215m, interest free

Source: Malaysia Today

(Malay Mail Online) – Controversial businessman Deepak Jaikishan (pic) was given a whopping RM215 million interest-free loan from state-owned Bank Rakyat, a PAS lawmaker alleged today, despite Putrajaya’s ...
Source: Malaysia Today   Full article at: Malaysia Today Jul 14 2014, 5:52am CDT

Update: 6

MRCB, Nusa Gapurna and PKNS settle suit over RM3 billion PJ Sentral project

Source: Malaysia Today

(The Malaysian Insider) – Malaysian Resources Corp Bhd (MRCB), Nusa Gapurna Development Sdn Bhd (NGD) and PKNS Holdings Sdn Bhd have reached an out-of-court settlement o ...
Source: Malaysia Today   Full article at: Malaysia Today Jun 21 2014, 2:53am CDT

Update: 5

Story behind Syed Mokhtar’s ‘RM2.25 billion tax-exempt’ Bernas deal revealed, says PKR MP

Source: Malaysia Today

(The Malaysian Insider) – An innocuous written reply in Parliament has provided a peek into the cosy relationship between the Najib administration and Malaysia’s best-known businessman, Tan Sri ...
Source: Malaysia Today   Full article at: Malaysia Today Jun 15 2014, 12:56pm CDT

Update: 4

Constitutional monarchy still murky concept

Source: Malaysia Today

After the RM4.5 billion land sale, the Sultan of Johor secured a 15% stake in MOL Access Portal (MOL) for RM396 million and took a 20% stake in Berjaya Times... ...
Source: Malaysia Today   Full article at: Malaysia Today Jun 14 2014, 12:37am CDT

Update: 3

Sultan of Johor’s RM4.5 bil backlash?

Source: Malaysia Today

"GOLDEN ASIA" Tokyo Premiere Press Conference
Has Sultan Ibrahim of Johor’s succession of big money deals over the last six months caused the tide of public opinion to turn against Johor’s royal palace? ...
Source: Malaysia Today   Full article at: Malaysia Today Jun 11 2014, 8:49am CDT

Update: 2

Putrajaya denies carpet dealer given interest-free loan

Source: Malaysia Today

Eileen Ng, The Malaysian Insider Putrajaya today refuted allegations that Bank Rakyat had allowed carpet dealer Deepak Jaikishan to repay a RM32 million loan without interest following interv ...
Source: Malaysia Today   Full article at: Malaysia Today Jun 11 2014, 5:44am CDT

Update: 1

Malaysia Spends Over $9 million on MH370 Hunt: Report

Source: NDTV

"GOLDEN ASIA" Tokyo Premiere Press Conference
Malaysia has so far spent about RM27.6 million (over $9 million) on search operations for missing Malaysia Airlines flight MH370, an official said on Mo ...
Source: NDTV   Full article at: NDTV Jun 9 2014, 3:12am CDT

Shopping Deals


<a href="/latest_stories/all/all/31" rel="author">Forbes</a>
Forbes is among the most trusted resources for the world's business and investment leaders, providing them the uncompromising commentary, concise analysis, relevant tools and real-time reporting they need to succeed at work, profit from investing and have fun with the rewards of winning.




blog comments powered by Disqus

Latest stories

The Hottest Bikini Photos from the Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week Swim 2015
The Hottest Bikini Photos from the Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week Swim 2015
The Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week Swim 2015 took place in Miami Beach, Florida this week and we have the hottest bikini photos from the runway for you. See the gallery below.
Cameron Diaz Disses Kyle upon Drew Barrymore Questions
Cameron Diaz Disses Kyle upon his Inappropriate Questions
Cameron Diaz recently dissed the interviewer Kyle Sandilands upon some of his inappropriate questions regarding Drew Barrymore and Benji Madden.
Lady Gaga Gets her Revenge via Instagram Photo
Lady Gaga Gets her Revenge via Instagram Photo
Lada Gaga was called fat by many cruel people. But she got her revenge via an Instagram photo which portrayed her in all her curvaceous and sexy self.
Zac Efron Stayed the Night at Michelle Rodriguez’s Home
Zac Efron Stayed the Night at Michelle Rodriguez’s Home
Zac Efron was recently spotted leaving Michelle Rodriguez’s home after having stayed the night there.

About the Geek Mind

Read more about The Geek Mind.